Dating for Grownups

They're kind. They're consistent. They communicate. They make an effort. They want the same things you do. They're practically everything you've been asking for… But you just don't feel the spark. Are we sometimes so used to emotional rollercoasters that a healthy, calm connection feels boring? Or is chemistry simply something you cannot force? This week on Love: The Grown-Up Edition, we're asking: Should you give it more time, or […]

We spend so much time talking about red flags in other people… but have you ever wondered whether YOU might be emotionally exhausting to be in a relationship with? Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Need constant reassurance? Turn every disagreement into a major argument? Or struggle to accept that they might have a different opinion? This isn't about being perfect. It's about taking responsibility for our […]

When you're dating, pay attention to patterns like: • Never taking responsibility • Disrespecting your boundaries • Controlling behaviour disguised as jealousy • Constant criticism • Financial manipulation • Trying to isolate you from friends or family • Using affection as a weapon • Constant comparisons to other men • Creating drama where there doesn't need to be any • Making you feel like you're walking on eggshells Nobody is […]

Are you dating the person—or their potential? We've all done it. “They'd be perfect if they just communicated better.” “They'll want commitment eventually.” “They'll become more romantic.” “They'll change.” But here's the uncomfortable truth: You shouldn't choose someone based on who you hope they'll become. People can grow. They can change. They can work on themselves—but they have to want that change. Before getting serious, ask yourself: “If this person […]

Maybe you're divorced. Maybe you've lost someone you loved. Maybe you've been single for years and wonder whether your chance at romance has passed. Here's your reminder: love doesn't have an expiry date. You don't have to be younger, have a perfect past or have your entire life figured out to deserve love. You may need to step outside your routine, take a chance on meeting someone new and learn […]

Red flags aren't always dramatic. Sometimes they're subtle: • They never take responsibility. • They don't respect your boundaries. • Their words don't match their actions. • They try to control who you see or what you do. • They're charming when things go their way but cruel when they're angry. • You constantly feel confused about where you stand. • You keep making excuses for behaviour that makes you […]

There is something very attractive about a grown adult who can take care of themselves. Because sometimes being single isn't about not wanting love. It's about not wanting another person to manage. You can want companionship, affection, intimacy and someone to share your life with—and still think: “I don't want to raise another adult.” The right relationship shouldn't make your life perfect. But it shouldn't turn you into someone's mother, […]

If you're dating someone, and you're not sure whether you should stay in this relationship then this article might be of value to you. I found it on the "She Thrives Solo" Facebook page and although it's written for women, I think it could resonate with the guys too... If you want to read the full post, click here: