Dating for Grownups

Needing space in a relationship is healthy. Disappearing without communication is not. Taking time to calm down shows maturity. Leaving someone confused shows avoidance. Real love doesn't disappear when things get hard - it pauses, breathes and comes back ready to talk.

There are many articles online about emotional safety for women, but you rarely see one that adresses emotional safety for men.   Here is the link to the full article:  

There’s a subtle but important question we don’t ask often enough in relationships: Are you in love with who someone is… or who you hope they’ll become?

I saw an article on the Angry Therapist Facebook page that speaks about the different stages of love, and how many relationships don't go through all the stages.  In summary, love usually starts like magic. Everything feels exciting, intense, and full of possibility. You’re high on chemistry, connection, and the feeling of being chosen — and that part is meant to be enjoyed. Then reality shows up. Differences surface, old […]

I found a post on Ancestral Healing's Facebook page that talks about emotional intimacy.  In short, real emotional intimacy isn’t about big speeches or constantly saying “I love you.” It’s that quiet feeling of safety that builds over time, where you can just be yourself — messy bits, contradictions, and all — and still feel wanted. It shows up in being comfortable with silence, feeling safe to share something vulnerable […]

When a woman goes on a date, it's important for her to take certain precautions to stay safe, and men should not be taking that personally.  

We often talk about red flags in relationships, and sometimes we ignore the greenflags. What are some of the green flags to look out for?

I came across a post on Facebook about what men would like you to do, and decided to ask the guys if that's true. If you want to read it for yourself here is the link: If you want to hear what the guys said, you can listen here:  

Being in a relationship that makes you feel anxious and controlled is not healthy!  And that's not how real love is supposed to make you feel.  I came across a great post that talks about that and I want to share that with you, because it might just be what you need to read today.